Sunday, October 5, 2014

When Your Kids and Grandkids are Having Trouble Getting Jobs

My daughter Jennifer has been filling in applications for jobs and turning them in with her redone resume. I think job hunting has become harder for people these days.  Even those who get jobs are getting paid less, get less benefits, having to take part time jobs, work multiple jobs and work split shifts. If I weren't  watching what some of my kids and grandkids are going through, I really wouldn't have a full understanding of how bad it is. It is stressful and depressing. 

The thing I require is to take the job search as a full time job in itself.  That is a lot, but necessary to get out of this spot. For my younger family members I would urge them to consider further schooling or training to increase their skills  to broaden their opportunities in getting work that could pay an adequate wage.  Minimum wage is far from adequate.  Keep a good resume and dress for the job search.  I cannot do this for them and I resent feeling used because I'm around .

I'm trying to set limits which is difficult with people you love, but really, I don't think I'm helping, just enabling. It encourages them to not make changes in what they do.  Some things they do are not working.  I don't believe they want to hear from me about this, but at the same time I don't have to deal with it if I don't desire. 

My art class with Carol Bradshaw is going well. She does not feel I'll become a botanical artist. I would agree with her. My problem is having a tremor and very poor vision for detail. So this affects the direction my art is going. Interesting to consider physical limitations in what I can do. I don't feel bad about it, it just is.  I'm having difficulty getting my pictures on here.  I think it is because I'm not understanding how to use a Mac.  Perhaps next week I can show you.  I'm working on a color wheel and I will have a hot air balloon ready for class.  I think I'm a little intimidated by it, but I'm not giving up.

Occupational therapy is going well. She did note that it was impressive that I wasn't having pain. I told her "but I am".   I think because I don't express it, the assumption is that there is no pain. So then I started verbalizing when I did have pain. My concern is that I expect there will be pain. When do you "buck up" or tell others there is pain?  I'm willing to accept a certain amount of pain, otherwise I would do nothing. 

Related to this, my friend Marti in my Red Hat group asked me how do I not get more tired with what I do. That is a good question. I actually can get very tired and was desiring at that moment to go home and lie down in bed.  But, what I try for are breaks in between events to regenerate.  Usually this works. I cannot go on and on. I will pay for it in pain and exhaustion.  I keep a calendar to schedule events to space events as I can.

I enjoy  getting together with my Red Hat gals. This month it was at The Woolgrowers, a tasty Basque restaurant.  The problem was that we were put in the main dining room. It was too noisy!  I could hear the women next to me, but I was lost with all other discussions. Those by me stated they were having the same problem. 

I had my second class with Nina Landgraff at Bakersfield College. I did some shading on the tennis shoe we did. I wasn't supposed to do that. It was only supposed to be a line drawing withe heaviness of line indicating if it was closer or farther away.  Then she had us copy a landscape picture using charcoal.  Now, I did this last term with her, but she has brought up new information which is stimulating. This year she asked us to do these in charcoal. We watched her do it, so I have a better sense of how to do it. 

I was tired at chemotherapy this week. I get caught up reading too late which makes me short of sleep.

I wet to my friend Annemarie's home by train to go with her to a fund raiser. I went out the day before to get a couple of clothing items to somewhat blend with the group (a country western theme). 

This event was a fund raiser for a children's garden and museum which will be in Hanford. It will take several years to complete this project, but how wonderful it will be!

This morning we went out for breakfast and Tone joined us. I don't get to see Tone much and she's a wonderful person.  We went to an organic farm to pick some Fuyu persimmons which have the texture of an apple. We were given permission to pick a few even if we missed the owner Jeannie. She has a community garden and people join and pay $500 for 6 months of vegetables and fruit that they pick up once a week.. What ever herbs they have you may take and fruits can be had for $1 per basket or pound. Very impressive. She and Annemarie are friends and I met her at that fundraiser and I invited her to the next Helping One Woman and she said she would come.  I also told Tone. It would be a good way to see good friends I don't get to see often enough.

Here is Coco and Conner singing


Here Conner is letting his mom that he is angry


Several people let me know that the link to one of the posts, Facing Paul's Death did not work. This is the link to all my posts:

HTTP:/racheljerdin.blogspot.com

Okay.  That's it for the week.  Hope your week went well and this next week will be good too!  See you next Sunday.          Rachel





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