Showing posts with label Loss. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Loss. Show all posts

Sunday, May 31, 2015

My Grandson Kevin's Birthday Party!

My friend Jody sent this to me. It is full of wonderful points on being creative. Any of us would benefit from this. It helps you cope better and calm down about issues going on in your life. 



My class with Carol Bradshaw was good as always.  Wayne, my fellow classmate was on vacation, but two women have joined us for some of the flower drawing and painting.  We talked about roses, how they are made up to fully understand them.  It was fascinating to me.  So I should have been working on drawing a rose for my next class, but we have a reprieve since Carol will be out of town this Tuesday and we will not see her for another week.  So I have decided to show you a couple of other pictures this week that I have done a while a go.  I'll have the drawing of my rose done next week.

My Cat Pepper - She Really is a Sweety!

Two Parrots on a Branch
My grandsons Devin and Kevin go to Junior High next year. Kevin got a nice reward with a trophy for how he did. I know Devin is just as smart, so maybe he will shine next year.  Both are now 12 years old.  They are growing so fast!

Heather helped me pick out a couple of new pots and plants, and with the pots  and plants that I bought earlier put plants in pots and painted bird houses which are not quite done.  They turned out very nice. My veggies and herbs have gone nuts. Next time I won't put the squash in the same planter. I will get a very big pot with a cage for it to climb.   Below are the two planters I bid on at the last Helping One Woman dinner.   My granddaughter Heather added the paint on the orange pot.  I think she did a great job!

Heather added the extra paint to this pot
Such a cute planter!  We put Cacti in it and it looks great!
Overgrown Planters with veggies and herbs.
I definitely killed the dill!

I got the second shot in my back. He said he believed that the pain would reduce by 50%. He said "don't bend your back or lift heavy things."  I said "For how long?"  He looked at me in surprise and said "For now on.  It hurts your back."  Huh.  It didn't occur to me that this was for ever. 

I saw my oncologist and had chemo the following day. My oncologist said the MUGA scan showed blood pumping at 60%.  He said it was up from three months ago which then it was 56%. He told me he will make this the baseline in deciding how I'm doing. 

When I came home from chemotherapy, I was needing to eat something comforting. As a kid I would have toast with butter, cinnamon and sugar.  So I sprinkled what I thought was cinnamon and it turned out it was ground cayenne pepper.  Ugh!  I didn't want to throw it out, so I loaded it with cinnamon and added a little more sugar. Very strange!  It was spicy hot cinnamon toast. Not my style.  The taste was not off, just hot. I don't think I'll do that again. 

We had a great birthday party for Kevin yesterday.  Shelley rented a blowup waterslide and we had it set up in the back yard.  Five of Kevin's friends were here with lots of our family.  Perfect weather for a waterslide.

Kevin with a friend
The Blowup Waterslide
Brianna and her Cousin
Kevin with his friends

Kevin and his mom Shelley


 
My granddaughter-in-law, Meagan posted two combined pictures of her and my grandson Billy with each of their sons.  Cute!


Conner is Just Learning to Use a Spoon!
Zylar (Meagan is using Kason's Middle Name)

Jeff and Stephanie (My son and daughter-in-law) are coming up to visit today.  They thought Kevin's birthday party was today (though it is his birthday today)  we had the party yesterday.  So we will be barbecuing today, or should I say Jeff and Stephanie are doing this.  Looking forward to it.  They are getting the food and doing the cooking.  I'll have pictures next week of this.

Hope you are doing well.   See you next Sunday.    Rachel

Sunday, May 24, 2015

Do You Advocate for Yourself and Do Research or Get a Social Worker?

A classmate from high school, Linda made contact with me through a site called Classmates.  So it has been well over 40 years since we have seen each other. She has had contact with two others who were important to me also and we will try to get together for lunch in the near future. She asked me if I had to be my own advocate or do my own research on my own health care. The answer is yes. When I was very weak and felt so bad, this was a role that was almost impossible to play.

I thought we needed people we could contact that could help us during this time.  I had a problem having very bad hot flashes and I could no longer have hormones because it was a fuel that fed my cancer.  So I mentioned to my doctor then that I heard reports that certain antidepressants helped to control hot flashes. My doctor then said that if I could find an article published in a well known medical journal supporting this, he would agree to this. While searching on the Internet, I found an Ask-A-Nurse site and that nurse was able to give me a citation my doctor accepted.  I thought my doctor should have known this information.  I don't think I could have been the first woman going through this.  I  also ran into financial problems with my insurance and the hospital I went to had used a wrong code which caused my insurance to deny payment. The clerk in the billing department dealing with my bill was too casual in my mind. I ended up writing letters questioning how this was handled and the problem of expecting patients to take on this role. 

My point is when I feel fine,  I have no problem doing my own advocacy or research and since I have a vested interest in the information, I often times would do a much better job on this rather than someone else. But, when I do not feel well, this is more than I can handle. I do have a retired social worker friend, Linda, who in the last eight years has been a wonderful advocate for me.  She at times found this very frustrating, but did not give up. I appreciated her ability to not give up performing like a dog with a bone.  I feel social workers can be the best people to do this if they do medical social work.  Being your own social worker does not always work well.  You can be too close to the problem and emotions can get in the way. 

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My granddaughter Crystal texted me this week asking how I was saying she missed me.  I  asked if she would have lunch with me.  She agreed.  I had to run errands including picking up my glasses which were finally the correct prescription. We went to eat at Johnny Garlics which has a $10 lunch menu. Crystal is about two months pregnant and going through morning sickness, so it takes a while for her to get over her nausea. She has insurance through her father but they said since she was a dependent,  they do not cover OB/GYN. So odd!  I didn't think they could do that. I did know she needed to apply for Medi-Cal (like Medicaid in other states) for her baby was born. Her boyfriend is in the picture, but works part-time and goes to college and has no insurance.  

My Granddaughter Crystal at Johnny Garlics

I had dinner at a friend's home. Linda (I have several friends named Linda). She is a social worker. There were ten of us, several were social workers and two were attorneys. What a great group!  Linda and her husband Thomas made a fabulous Puerto Rican meal and we even played a type of guessing game called Taboo. So I brought up what my granddaughter is having to deal with in regard to her health insurance.  They stated it was illegal what the insurance company was doing. They suggested we call and speak to a supervisor and follow up with this by letter with a copy sent to the Insurance Commissioner of California.  So that will be the next step Crystal and I will take.  So helpful.

At this dinner, I met a couple, Jim and Kathleen Faulkner, both attorneys.  I really liked them. Kathleen and I really connected. She is active in a group called Writers of Kern. She writes poetry. She was urging me to write. I told her I did through my blog. She also urged me to join Writers of Kern.  I have been to this group once about a year ago. It was a good group.  I would like to do this. I worry about over-committing and not being able to keep this up.

So my class with Carol Bradshaw went well. I had some problems with the iris I drew. She gave some suggestions on correcting it.  I did work on it. She also showed how we would go about painting it  the variation in color in the flower is a wash.

My Iris in Pencil - Edited

My Iris in Watercolor

While I was at class, my friend Martha sent me a message she would see me at 5 pm. I had completely forgotten!  I panicked because I had a medical test the next day, but it was late enough not to be an issue.  I had several tasks to accomplish before going, but I did well and got to Martha's home at the regular time to go to the Helping One Woman's dinner. Good event and the woman, Anna Hernandez-Treviso, has a son with AML Leukemia who recently had a bone marrow transplant.  Though he is not out of the woods yet, it looks hopeful.   They had a silent auction and I bid on and got flower pots and a stand. They'll look good in my yard.  Had another wonderful breakfast at Susan's home the next morning before heading home. 

No word yet on the retaining wall in my back yard. Evidently, it is complicated; It was not meant to be a retaining wall. In the 1970's, the city (?) back filled the dirt against this wall when an area above us was put in after this neighborhood was done.  I'm so worried that the cost will be prohibitive.  He states he can tell me next week. He is waiting on the estimates by other people involved in this project. 

My friend Janet and I met twice this week once after another MUGA scan ( to check my heart) in preparation to seeing my oncologist next week. The other time was with Lisa and Charmaine at Sandrini's.  It is always good catching up, but I headed home to lie down and promptly fell asleep.  I think if I keep my meals down to salad and skip the drink, unless it is evening, I may be able to stay awake more.  

This is a lovely poem that describes life moving on:

Nothing that is can pause or stay;
The moon will wax, the moon will wane,
The mist and cloud will turn to rain,
The rain to mist and cloud again,
Tomorrow be today. 
 
~ Henry Wadsworth Longfellow 



It's kindness which matters. This is a touching video. We all have our stories. 




Here is a lovely picture of Meagan, my granddaughter-in-law with both of her sons, my great-grandsons, Kason and Conner (just a year apart!).

Meagan with Kason and Conner


So this next week I will go in for another injection in my back. This ends up being a forced bed time because of the medications given during the procedure wipe me out.   We are also going to have my grandson Kevin's birthday here to put up a blow up slide with water running down it. I won't water before to use that time for watering the yard through this slide. I'll also situate myself or another adult on the wall side to keep the boys away from it. 

So as usual these days, another full week.  No regrets and very eventful. I hope your week went well and I should have a lot to share next week.   See you next Sunday.                 Rachel. 

Sunday, March 1, 2015

A Cure on the Horizon?

There was this very interesting special that was on HBO called Vice Special Report: Killing Cancer. It was fascinating. People were intentionally given a virus which killed the Cancer. It had a great response. Different medical centers were trying it different ways.  They were focused on curing cancer with great results. People had tumors in their brains, and other areas of the body. We might be on the verge of curing cancer. The viruses attack the cancer cells but do not hurt the healthy cells.   They have noticed that since 1910 some viruses killed cancer when they were treated with rabies vaccine. The smallpox vaccine was modified to only attack cancer cells with success.  So infectious viruses are now being used to fight cancer. Measles virus, HIV virus, common cold virus have also worked. This was used on people where it was their last chance; all other treatments were exhausted.   It is not guaranteed, but this is really offering hope. And hope is what keeps us going. Some day I'm sure this will be standard treatment. I don't think it will be all that long into the future. This is in trials in several clinics.  Viruses has already been used for vaccines, so it is already in use.  There are over 300 types of cancer. I believe they will eventually find the right virus to treat all of these cancers.   It is looking up!


I picked up my glasses and my granddaughter Brooklyn came up and said "Hi grandma". Her parents brought her for contact lenses.  She is just eleven, but she looks older. She is tall and beautiful.   

I'm still adjusting to my glasses. They asked me to give it two weeks and if there was still some problem, they would deal with it.

I have a Vitamix blender which is fabulous for making smoothies. You can throw veggies and fruits in with little preparation. So I made this smoothie with orange juice, coconut milk, plain nonfat yoghurt, blue berries, a banana, 1/2 of a lemon's juice, some kale and spinach, a small scoop of Green Max Powder from Swanson Greenfoods. I also put some flax seeds in and maybe a cup of ice.   It came out blue and looks odd, but I put it in a plastic container that is not see through. It turned out delicious. So the color was not distracting with the container I used.    Today, I used Blackberries.   I think this is very healthy!
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My grandson Kevin, who is eleven,  wrote another story. He really is creative!  Here it is:


Joe the Beaver
So I don’t know why, but these stupid people brought me here.  I was going to come here anyway.  I wanted to work on my tan.  I guess I should introduce myself;  I’m Joe the beaver.

I was going deeper into the woods than the humans dropped me off I think it was Yosemite- it looked breathtaking with lush green forest, high mountains, and shimmering lakes. However,  I’ve seen it all before, if you’ve seen one giant forest you’ve seen them all. I was just looking for a stream.

I saw a deer pass, and asked “Hey! Hey do you know where a stream is?”  He looked a bit confused but said ”Yeah, follow me if you want to find it.”“Hey wait up!’ I called while I was trying my best to keep up with my short stubby legs.

I formulated a plan. While he went straight,  I went up a slope. I poured on speed and I jumped.
I’ll be honest.  I didn’t expect it to work, but I landed on the deer’s back and on the way down yelled “Ahhh!”
The deer, apparently,  didn’t expect this, because he tried to buck me off.  I said “wh-oa-oa-oa! It’s me dude!”  What?  Oh.  Sorry.”  He was a bit embarrassed.

We arrived at a stream a couple minutes later.  I got off deer’s back, and that reminded me,  I was getting tired of calling him that. “What’s your name?” I asked.  “Ernest ”he replied“What’s yours?” he asked.  “Joe” I said.

Then I was scared out of my wits when I saw a giant grizzly bear coming toward us.   “Run!” I yelled,  as I ran the opposite direction.  “It’s ok,  Anton’s a vegetarian.”said Ernest,  as though a bear being vegetarian was a common thing.“Yeah and I built the Hoover Dam. Now RUN!”

However Ernest stood, watching Anton the bear walk slowly toward him. He did this while I watched in horror.

Just when I was sure Ernest had lost it Anton said “Hey Ernest how’s it going.” His voice was sort of like Smokey the Bear’s -deep and slow. He looked over to me and I was cowering behind a nearby pile of rocks. “Who’s your little friend” he asked Ernest. “Oh he’s Joe. He was trying to find a stream” said Ernest.

“Well why don’t you come over here and meet me?”Asked Anton “He’s under the stereotypical impression that all bears eat meat.” “Oh.” Anton sounded a little offended.
I cautiously made my way over to Anton, who was, by the way, ten times as big as me. “Um...hi?” I said.

I flinched when he started talking.  He asked “ How’s your day going? Do you need any help with anything?”He had a kindly smile, at least as kindly a smile as a bear can get. It made me relax a little.

“Well I was just flown to California,  so my day's going pretty well, and I need to build a dam.”

“Well we can help you with that.”Said Anton cheerfully.  Um, we can” asked Ernest skeptically?  “I mean, do you know anything about building a dam Anton?”  “I was assuming Joe here would teach us” said Anton.

“This is going to be a long week of teaching.”I said.

After a day of thinking I came up with a game plan. After I ate half of the tree away,  Anton would have to push it down into the stream -in which case the tree would have to be near the stream. Ernest would go collect twigs and branches to plug up holes and I would chew trees and put mud on to seal the hole.

I told them the game plan. They said that it was better than anything they came up with (which I assumed was nothing), so we did it.

There were a few setbacks such as a tree almost falling on me,  Ernest walking through poison ivy, and best of all, Anton falling in the stream and getting chased by fish.

A few weeks later when we finished, a lot more beavers started to move in, and we all swam happily in our dam area.


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My granddaughter Heather is signed up to go for training to become an Ultrasound Technician. I am so happy for her!  I look forward hearing about her progress.

I had some problem getting my pain meds. They have a system that I did not understand. I ordered on the phone a week ago Friday and expected to pick them up on Tuesday.  Evidently, my doctor is out a few months (she is being treated for breast cancer) and wherever the doctor who covers for her is, is where I would go to pick up the meds. I was not told this. But it was never ordered even though the phone system said to give it two days.  Something wrong with the system. I was worried because I had few pills and panicked about being in pain. The assistant in the pharmacy sent the request to the pain clinic doctor, though I don't have an appointment until March 20,and left a message for me it was there two days later.  Relief!

I take a blood thinner because of getting a blood clot in my jugular vein more than two years ago.  I have an endoscopy scheduled for Tuesday and I switched to injections of Lovenox for a few days before and after the procedure.  I hate shots. Hard to believe after having so many, but I saw a hypnotist in 2000 since I was told then I'd have to give myself Neupogen shots to build up my white blood cell count while we were on vacation in Europe.  Otherwise, I went into the clinic daily for these shots.   It was hard enough accepting others giving me injections, but to myself, was to me the ultimate in bad thinking.   So Paul and I were a team doing this. I didn't like it, but I understood there was no choice.  When I initially got the blood clot, I insisted after two weeks of injecting myself with Lovenox that I didn't want to do this and switched to oral meds.   So here we go again. No choice, but I'm reminding myself it is short term. I'm doing fine with it. Amazing how we can change. I never thought I could do this!

They opened a Sprouts in our town so my friend Barbara and I checked them out. It has a lot more than Lassen's and might be less expensive than them. There was also more variety. We were also going to check out BevMo but there was a long line for being able to get in. So you know, we in Bakersfield prefer our alcohol over our veggies!   Though, that is not true for everyone. That line floored me!   

Yesterday Barbara invited me to dinner at Cafe Med, a Mediterranean restaurant.  She had a gift card for them. We had a wonderful dinner.  For Bakersfield, it is a little pricey, but it was lovely. Then we saw McFarland which was a great movie. It seemed culturally accurate for this small town a little north of Bakersfield.   The warmth of this tight community and the coming together of two cultures was shown well. We loved it!

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I saw a wonderful short on CBS News Sunday Morning about a robot camera that someone who is bed or homebound can see the De Young Museum in San Francisco. The person at home controls the movement of this camera to view the museum at their own pace and interest. I wonder if other museums have started this or plan to do this.   It is a wonderful idea!

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My husband Paul and I traveled a lot. How we did it as often as we did was not to decide before hand, but look for the deals. We also each paid our own way, another way to plan these trips.  Paul ended up researching the Internet to find these deals and sometimes he would write it up like a tour company and give it to me. I loved it!

So we initially went to Mexico several times, two or three times with the kids. I loved the way Paul looked. He had a rugged look. I think it was because he loved sunning when his ancestry was Norwegian and Swedish.  But I loved it. He was my "Macho Man".   He told me that people looked at him as dangerous and if I stuck by him, people would leave me alone. He was right. If men walked up to sell me something, they would fade away when I'd take his arm. I never saw him as threatening, but I saw this reaction a lot. 

So we had gone to Puerto Vallarta and had a hotel at the beach.  Paul and I weren't married then. We were approached by a salesman to come to a presentation on a timeshare next door to the resort. 

The draw was to get a jeep for 24 hours.  Okay.  Paul asked no questions.  I asked a ton of them.  I think the salesman thought he had us in the bag and then I said "no".   And I asked "where do we get this jeep?"  He was obviously angry at me and Paul said after we left that  "I thought you were going to sign".   I told him I wanted the man to try out his talk on us. 

The next morning we go to get our jeep. It was open, no cover from the elements. We were dressed in our resort dress.  I had on shorts and short sleeved shirt in a pastel and Paul was wearing shorts and looked like a bushwhacker. Paul had a straw hat on.  He used the tie around the hat and tied it under his chin to keep it from blowing off. 

Paul's style of travel is just to drive,  not having any idea where we are going or caring about the time. So we are going and going and it is like, we will not make it back in the same day. The weather changes to rain and cold. The inside of the windshield is covered with water.   I am having to reach over and wipe the inside so he can see. I even had to do a quick wipes  of his glasses with all the rain.  It was ridiculous!

We are driving through these poor villages and Paul suggested we get a room that is available for a couple of dollars.  These places look unfinished,  made of Adobe.  I was not feeling this adventurous and kept nixing these ideas. 

We finally end up in a city, Tepic,  which seemed much more promising.  Paul drives around until we get to this business which looked modern and more like we were familiar with. The building is wrapped around a courtyard with an opening on one side. Paul sees a window that says ADMINISTRACION. He immediately feels comfortable (he was a vice-president at the hospital we worked at).  He walks up to the sliding glass window and a woman opens it. Paul says "Ask her where a hotel is."  I know only a bit of Spanish and I'm not quite sure how to ask this. So instead, I ask her where the middle of town is thinking there will be a hotel there. She responds to me speaking so fast, that I was lucky to get one in ten words. But as she is talking, she also is pointing. So Paul asks me "Where is it?"  I point in the direction she pointed and said "That way."  I think Paul really thought I understood.  All these professional people are at the windows looking at us and laughing. Paul states the obvious,  "They are all laughing at us."  I say "Well of course, we look ridiculous!"  The straw hat Paul is wearing is drooping around his head and looks so funny tied down. I so don't fit in  to this setting with my dress.   And besides, we are soaked to the skin. Paul is sure he is going to die from the cold. I'm miserable, but I don't think we are going to die.  

We drive in the direction this woman pointed and found a place. When we go in,  Paul gives a sigh of relief seeing a sign that the local Rotary Club has their meetings here.  Paul gets a room for $7.  When we get up to the room I suggest we go out and buy more appropriate clothes.  He says "We can't."  I ask, "Why not?"  He says "The credit cards are in the safe at our hotel."   I am shocked.  We are over 100 miles or so from where we came and much of the road was dirt.  I suggest we buy large trash bags for rain protection, but he doesn't have enough money for that and for us to eat.  Now I'm mad, but I'm biting my tongue.  Nothing can be done about it.

I'm so cold I think a hot shower will warm me up.  Interesting that the shower head comes from the ceiling which makes it impossible to avoid getting my hair wet.  When I get out, the room is really chilly.  No heat or air-conditioning.   I have to get under the covers.  Our room has two beds. Paul is already buried in his bed.  I find that my bed does not have enough covers.  I grab all the bedding (and see lots of graffiti on the mattress)  to put over Paul with the idea to join him for warmth.  Paul asks  "What are you doing?"   I said "I'm joining you!  I need warmth!"  Paul then says "I'm not fucking!"  I'm shocked (he doesn't talk this way to me).  I said, "Don't worry, I need your warmth!"  Of course, after we warmed up.....

We went to the restaurant in the hotel to eat and were able to get a good meal with the money we had. There was a family from the United States driving through Mexico and a group of bikers  also from the United States. Very interesting conversation. Paul ordered a cake that was made using goat milk. I couldn't stand goat anything then and I could smell it.  I made nasty comments about it and Paul made a point of licking the plate, another shocker to me. It started a gag reflex for me and I had to get out of there.

The next morning we left as soon as we got up. We didn't get back to the resort until later in the day. The rain had stopped.  I felt so cruddy in my damp clothes.  I could hardly walk after that drive. Later we got in the hot tub listening to Margaritaville. A fitting end. 

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Here are recent pictures of Conner.  He is so cute.  I wonder how he will act when he has a baby brother.






There is a plus for me having gone through what has happened as can other people's experiences be a plus.   I and they can help others with the knowledge of experience.   This woman who goes by Zelfred submitted this to thegrieftoolbox.com  and states it so well!

The Good, the Bad and the Ugly of Grief

We are all individuals, our circumstances are different and our relationships are different as is the resultant level and depth and length of grief we experience. Whilst there are undeniable similarities –  each experience as unique as our fingerprints. 
When a loved one is taken our love does not stop.  Our love continues to grow daily, but the object of your affection is gone from our presence.  We can talk to them, write to them and remember the good times, but we cannot see them, touch them, hug or kiss them.  We have no outlet for the love that still resides and continues to grow in our hearts. And that hurts!  We grieve and hurt this much because we love so much.  We feel the sting of tears as we contemplate our loss and the future we will never have again with them on earth… dreams now shattered.
That does not mean we stop trying our best to carry on with our lives.  Get out for a bit as impossible as it seems.  Nothing major at first: whatever we can manage for short spells, always allowing ourselves a quick retreat if we should feel overwhelmed.  At times when I have felt the least “able” to step outside the confines of home I have felt the most refreshed when I got out nonetheless. Take resolve to make them proud. 
There are days when we feel stronger and we can do these things and make them proud and be proud of our own progress, but the next day an unexpected wave of grief and sense of loss may hit and we feel utterly depleted – weak (the “BAD!”).  I believe at times like these we should listen to our souls.  Take the time out and be kind to ourselves.  Allow ourselves the “luxury” to grieve in whichever way suits us.  Be it crying and sobbing uncontrollably to purge the pain (the “UGLY”) or withdrawing for a while in quiet reflection and politely dismissing the expectations of those around us while we regain our emotional strength to face another day.  We should never, ever feel guilty for feeling and acknowledging our pain.  Certainly we have not failed our departed loved ones or ourselves.  We are human.  We grieve because we love. 
Smiles and victories will be there. Beautiful memories recalled with fondness, but lurking in the same heart that holds joy in memory, strength and resolve, there now resides pain, loss, loneliness and sometimes a seemingly limitless supply of fresh tears.  They co-exist and take turns in surfacing unheeded and often so out of our control.  The best thing we can do for ourselves is ride out the waves that come – whatever they are.  Experience them guilt-free.  Don’t view them as a test to be passed or failed.   We now have a new appreciation for the things that really matter in life. Relationships and people.  The resulting empathy and compassion we have acquired will make it possible to help others on the same path. 
Our own experiences and wisdom gained can help those new on the path. Right there is our new purpose in life.  That above all is what you should strive for.  To use your pain to uplift and share with others who are seeking the answers.  To help them realize they are not alone, that whatever they feel is ok.  We can light their path to make it easier to follow – and forgive themselves. And that is the “GOOD” part of grief. 

So, I have so much this week with an endoscopy, a memorial service of my friend Marykay's father, a Red Hat Dinner and a talk to a fundraiser sponsored by Avon to support a woman who will participate in a walk on the coast (the entry fee is $1800).   I should have a lot to share.

I hope you have a good week and those in the zones where the weather is bizarre, come through this. See you next Sunday.         Rachel